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Ahhh, love. Whether we hate to love or love to hate, we can’t deny that it’s all around us, and what better day to discuss our triumphs or continuous endeavors than on Valentine’s Day, the day of sweet amor. Talk about your first love, your first date, the one that got away, or future plans you may have in this realm. Maybe you’re looking for advice, or just want to throw some questions out there for the public (like that one question everyone asks, “Is there such thing as love at first sight?”).
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well my first love is my current boyfriend, other then that I've never actually loved a guy, I Have liked them sure, but not love.sigpicI want to say a big thank you to zeke for making me the picture for my birthday.
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Well, I think it's about time I explained myself. As some of you may remember, I went on a school trip a few weeks ago. When I came back I told you there had been a lot of drama. It turns out drama barely begins to cover it. Two of my best friends hooked up. Another two began "hanging out" and I... Well you may not know this, but a few months ago I fell in love with a friend I've known forever. And on this trip...she found out. Now you may be thinking I asked her out or something, but that's not the case. I tried hanging out with her more, specially at the beach outside the hotel and stuff, and it was going great.
...Except I have friends who don't know what indiscreet means.
One day we were all eating at a restaurant and the ones who know I like her began yelling about how I should ask her out at the beach during sunset. And when I say yelling, I mean YELLING. Of course she heard them, but she wasn't sure if we were talking about her or not. However, I didn't know she had heard until the night after, so the next day I sat on the bus next to her and we began talking and unknowingly I pretty much confirmed her suspicions. That night another of my friends, which is her best friend told me that she was asking if I liked her. So it was then that we all knew she knew. I was pretty devastated, because even if my friends began saying this was better for me it wasn't. The awkwardness that had been there to begin with when trying to talk to her was increased sevenfold. And so I thought my chances were pretty much zeroed out.
However it's now been a few weeks since that. A couple of days after the trip her best friend told me that she had never said she didn't want to go out with me, she just said she wanted to know me more before. Of course some hope was restored. At least now I know some hope is still alive. So that's my story. I just wanted to get it out there so you guys were aware if I ever seem in a weird or different mood, this is the reason. I'm still not sure how I'm going to manage making this work, since, and I quote a song, "I get weak in the knees, fall head over heels, and every other cheesy cliche," when she's around, so it's hard. I stutter my words and usually end up saying never mind when I talk with her.
Now I'm done talking. If you would happen to have any questions or advice, I wouldn't mind hearing about it.Comment
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get to know her and see how it goes? also, don't treat her any differently then you have been treating her just because she knows you like her..... one more thing J, there is a diffrence between love and a crush. and the way you discribe it it sounds more like a crush then actual love.sigpicI want to say a big thank you to zeke for making me the picture for my birthday.
new name idea, CrazyMidna, totally suits me doesn't it lol ^_^Comment
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I was joking with my friend and said I'd be her boyfriend's rebound girl if they ever split. So on the friday before I left for my Southbound Trip she said she'd break up with him so I could have him, but she was having a sugar rush so we all thought she was joking. On the last night I had I was chillin', jammin' to Falling in Reverse because my mom and the adults at the camp went out, leaving my sister and I.
She had fallen asleep so I was singing outloud (in my horrible voice) reading Creepypasta when my best friend texted me saying they broke up. I was half excited and half devistated, but her heart wasn't broken. So on the Wedsnday I returned to school, I saw her ex and turned bright red before I said anything to him. So I asked her to talk to him a few times and she reported he said he was a little weirded out that I wanted to go out with him.
So through the week I pestered my friend to ask him for me, because I have no ***** and can't even ask one of my guy friends to go the a school dance AS A FRIEND without asking somebody to do it for me. Probably why I'm forever alone.
ANYWAY on Friday my friend promised to talk to her ex for me, so it's all up in the air as of now, because she can't text me due to the fact her phone's turned off. And if this doesn't work out, my OTHER friend who had to transfer schools wants me to meet one of her friends. Because she thinks he'll like me ^_^
So yeah D:Old Age of War stuff here:
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It's not a crush. I've had crushes before, and I've had no trouble asking them out. She's not a crush, because if she was I would've never told you guys about her. I didn't post exactly what I think of her because if I had then you guys would mark me as a cheesy, corny, hopeless romantic which would've led to unneeded teasing. But yeah, believe me she is not a crush.
Also, V, I don't think you'll be forever alone for long :PComment
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Jborgon’s Case
Ahhh, so that’s why you’ve been seeming a little down. Well, I’m glad you were able to open up to us and get this off your chest. But yes, it looks like she hasn’t ruled you out as a suitable suitor, which must mean that what you’ve been doing so far is good, even after (and despite) the little fiasco with your friends. In any case, you’ve most certainly caught her attention now, since she now knows that you’re interested. So you’ve at least gotten over the hurdle of letting her know how you feel.
For some people, love isn’t something that just blossoms over night. After all, didn’t you say that you’ve fallen in love with this girl that you’ve known for forever only a few months ago? Since you’ve been friends with her since forever, most likely what she means by getting to know you more is getting to know the romantic you more. Give her time and a chance to see you in the light of a lover. It’s like a flower—in order for it to bloom and grow, you have to give it care and have patience.
Don’t let what happened on the trip stop you from talking to her—if you don’t talk to her, how will she know that you’re really serious? Remember how GL would always talk about his love problems? I know that if this was his case, you’d be encouraging him to talk to her too, to fight the nervousness and just go for it. How? By continuing to do what you’ve previously been doing, only more. In the war of love, you must show her how much you care. Know what she likes and what makes her happy. Occasionally make her simple, thoughtful, handcrafted gifts, but nothing too romantic that might make her feel like she’s obliged to return the emotion and make her uneasy (because remember, she’s still getting to know this side of you). Even things like inviting her for a simple stroll through the park and having a picnic (possibly with about two other of her friends with her so that, again, she won’t feel obliged to anything and fearfully back out, and it’ll make things less awkward and more easy on you) would be nice and give you two a chance to talk, get to know each other even more, and basically enjoy yourselves. Once she starts showing more interest, then you can get into the more romantic stuff, like composing your own music on the piano for her, inviting her to places with just the two of you, and stuff like that. Get creative.
Tl;dr: I know it’s hard, but you’re already this far into it, so why back out now? The worst is over. Conquer your fears with logical thinking and don’t let a biological thing like nervousness keep you from winning her love for you, which could very well be stirring inside of her now that everything’s out in the open.
And genuinely smile more. Chicks dig guys that smile.
Ammy’s case
Sounds like you’re in love with the idea of being in love lol. Are you sure you wouldn’t rather enjoy the freedom of flying solo? D: Maybe the reason why you’re nervous talking about anything that might hint to love with guys is because you honestly don’t want anything to do with it? I mean hey, you’ve still got a long life ahead of you, there’s no rush in finding The One, amirite? D: Either way, I wish you luck in getting what makes you happy. And don’t worry about being Forever Alone. You’re a pretty cool gal, and once the other guys start to see this, you’ll have to fend them off with swords and dynamite.Comment
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So as you know I'm single again, and my ex is out of nowhere being a complete and utter jerk. Maybe his new girlfriend is manipulating him? I don't know.
But it seems everbody's trying to get a pair of my friends together, she likes him a lot, and he's not sure.
Wat do?Old Age of War stuff here:
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Sorry to hear about your jerk of an ex D: Well, I suppose it'd be kind of mean to force your guy friend into a relationship he's not sure of...but who knows what could happen? And as my great grandpa used to say, "Love is a risky game, with risky chances and risky decisions. That's what makes it so interesting. Now hand me my dentures." A wise man, that one.Comment
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Okay so update.
I've been talkin to the guy, AP by the people who actually see him I guess, I like who, evidently, goes to the rival high school, and he talks back.
Turns out he really likes Slenderman stuff, and I already knew he liked Homestuck.
So we've been talking back and forth for a while, and last Saturday I stayed up until 3 AM with him because he watched all of Tribe Twelve in a day and couldn't sleep.
Then today my wonderful friend *whom we call Eridan* gave me crap about liking him, as he always, does, but I don't mind. He said "hey when i asked him if he was crushin on u he said yeah a little"
Me: **** MY EVERTHING
Turns out he was lying~
But then he went and ACTUALLY talked to him when I hinted that I really did wanna know, and came back with this, copy and pasted from AP to Eridan and from Eridan to me and from me to here.
"yeah shes really cute
bubbley personality
i do like her
just not in a dating way yet"
Can you hear it? Huh? Can you? Can you hear my love life coming back to life?
He also gave me his number, and turns out I had it all along, I just thought it changed when he dropped his phone in a puddle.
So yeah, a little awkward part of my life is coming back to me.
This is okay.
I'm okay with this.
Also, my ex is being very much not a jerk anymore. *and he likes AP*
What even.Old Age of War stuff here:
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